While in the process of dissolving my 22-year marriage, I began uncovering and letting go of old patterns and beliefs about being in relationships. I had been operating out of the paradigm that marriage is a transactional agreement and that I had to earn love, instead of it being gifted freely and generously.    I thought I was solely responsible for the success of my relationship, and if it wasn’t working, I needed to try harder or do more, or somehow twist myself into a different shape. Eventually, I was so twisted and tangled that I no longer recognized myself.    Eating Lies, Deep Grooves and Contorted  were created during this process.    While creating these coffins I thought about how these patterns came to be, what it would take to unknot the fear and stop contorting myself to please others, and what it looks like when a healthier pattern is in place. Creating this artwork was about laying these patterns to rest and provided a sense of completion that was integral to the process of saying goodbye to this marriage and shifting the unhealthy relational patterns that had been in place for so long.
       
     
Eating Lies
       
     
Eating Lies, open
       
     
Deep Grooves
       
     
Deep Grooves, detail
       
     
Contorted
       
     
Contorted, open
       
     
 While in the process of dissolving my 22-year marriage, I began uncovering and letting go of old patterns and beliefs about being in relationships. I had been operating out of the paradigm that marriage is a transactional agreement and that I had to earn love, instead of it being gifted freely and generously.    I thought I was solely responsible for the success of my relationship, and if it wasn’t working, I needed to try harder or do more, or somehow twist myself into a different shape. Eventually, I was so twisted and tangled that I no longer recognized myself.    Eating Lies, Deep Grooves and Contorted  were created during this process.    While creating these coffins I thought about how these patterns came to be, what it would take to unknot the fear and stop contorting myself to please others, and what it looks like when a healthier pattern is in place. Creating this artwork was about laying these patterns to rest and provided a sense of completion that was integral to the process of saying goodbye to this marriage and shifting the unhealthy relational patterns that had been in place for so long.
       
     

While in the process of dissolving my 22-year marriage, I began uncovering and letting go of old patterns and beliefs about being in relationships. I had been operating out of the paradigm that marriage is a transactional agreement and that I had to earn love, instead of it being gifted freely and generously.

I thought I was solely responsible for the success of my relationship, and if it wasn’t working, I needed to try harder or do more, or somehow twist myself into a different shape. Eventually, I was so twisted and tangled that I no longer recognized myself. Eating Lies, Deep Grooves and Contorted were created during this process.

While creating these coffins I thought about how these patterns came to be, what it would take to unknot the fear and stop contorting myself to please others, and what it looks like when a healthier pattern is in place. Creating this artwork was about laying these patterns to rest and provided a sense of completion that was integral to the process of saying goodbye to this marriage and shifting the unhealthy relational patterns that had been in place for so long.

Eating Lies
       
     
Eating Lies
Eating Lies, open
       
     
Eating Lies, open
Deep Grooves
       
     
Deep Grooves
Deep Grooves, detail
       
     
Deep Grooves, detail
Contorted
       
     
Contorted
Contorted, open
       
     
Contorted, open